Let me start this off by saying it’s pretty interesting to be writing these updates while the world is still in the dark about the fact that I’m pregnant. For my last pregnancy, I announced publicly and then started writing about my journey here on this blog shortly afterwards. This time around, I think I’ll be closer to half way when I announce things. Perhaps Father’s Day when I’m exactly 20 weeks and know the gender already is when I’ll make it all known. We’ll see what happens because so much is up in the air about what life will be like in the world during that time.Continue reading
12 Week Pregnancy Update
Boy, have I got a lot to fill you in on. Since this is the first update, I’d like to recap my first trimester. It’s been a doozy. As much as I’d hoped for a symptom free pregnancy, I didn’t get it. However, I know this isn’t forever and that I’ll get through it just like my first pregnancy that took me for a wild ride. Continue reading
I Guess I’m Pregnant!
So, I guess we’re embarking on a new journey and sometimes it’s still hard to believe that I’m pregnant with baby number two. There are so many emotions that flew through my mind on February 27th as I saw the positive line show up after I peed on a pregnancy test. Let’s rewind a little bit so I can take you through the process of even getting to this point. Continue reading
My Miscarriage Journey
In this episode of “It’s Only Reality”, I discuss the traumatic experience of going through a miscarriage. October is National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month and October 15th is Infant & Pregnancy Loss Awareness Day. If you’ve lost a child due to miscarriage, ectopic pregnancy, stillbirth, or neonatal loss, or if you know someone who has, I offer my deepest condolences. Continue reading
Watch the first episode of “It’s Only Reality”
Why start a YouTube channel? I used to wonder why many of the mommy blogs I followed also had videos embedded in the content. It was almost identical information in the video and in the text, so it seemed a little redundant to have two mediums within the same webpage.
It wasn’t until my mother had to tell me–for the millionth time–that I should start a YouTube channel that highlights my journey of motherhood that I even considered doing it. I’m an avid reader and I almost prefer reading someone’s blog over watching their video and mentally rushing them to get to the point. But I do understand that many people prefer to watch someone they consider an online friend. Hearing their voice, getting used to their mannerisms, and being invited into a stranger’s home is a unique experience for our generation. However; if I’m going to take on a project, I like to do it well, so the thought of taking on yet another task by choice was almost laughable. Continue reading
“Mommy and Me” Style
Years and years before I had any children, I toyed with the idea of being the coordinated family. Part of me loved the idea of my daughter(s) being a mini me and our son(s) being a mini daddy. The other part of me couldn’t stand it. Now that I am a mommy, it’s become a mixture of the two. When we go out for a special occasion like church, parties, family date night, etc. we definitely coordinate our clothing, but on a daily basis, our style is usually dictated by the weather. Living in Southern California that means summer clothing for most of the year (Yay!). Continue reading
Becoming you again…
Your body, free time, and brain function may never be the same after becoming a mom, but at your core, you are the same amazing, wonderful, and beautiful you! I think it took me about six months post-partum to get my head above water and exit survival mode, and maybe a full year to not feel guilty doing things for myself. There were certain activities that really helped me get in the right head space, and I’d like to share them with my fellow mamas. Some of these may not apply to you, but I’m hoping anyone who stops by to read (hey you!) will find a few of these tips helpful. Continue reading
Welcome to Co-Sleeping
At our daughter’s 15 month checkup last October, my husband and I were asked by her pediatrician about Petra’s sleeping arrangements and how she was sleeping through the night. She sleeps very well throughout the night (disregarding teething, sickness, or the night before a developmental leap), but we informed him that she was still sleeping in our bed.
He was concerned that she wasn’t falling asleep on her own in her crib. I was surprised that he had an opinion on this. I politely said with a laugh, “We’re not bothered by it, and I’m sure she’ll be sleeping on her own by the time she goes to college.” He raised an eyebrow and replied “Well, I know families whose teenagers still sleep with them.” Continue reading
You don’t have to be grateful.
I read an article recently of a mother who went through one of the worst horrors you can imagine. She conceived a child only to have him stillborn many months later. In her post, she offered a suggestion to other new moms she knew stating that they should remember her when their baby is up at 3am crying for hours. She implored that they shouldn’t complain, but instead should be grateful for the newborn cries that she would give anything for. She asked that they not describe the struggles of breastfeeding because she would be left with milk in her breasts and no baby to feed. She went on to say how they should be grateful for all of the ups and downs that came with having a baby because hers had unfortunately died.
Years ago, I would have agreed with her. Continue reading
DIY Family Portraits
I’ve been taking my own portraits ever since I became a model and a photographer over eight years ago. Being able to control the environment and practice my craft without a demanding crew waiting for me to get it right was how I became comfortable in front of and behind the lens.
When my daughter was born, it was only right to start taking her portrait as well. We did this every month for her first year of life in order to document the drastic changes that happen over a few weeks’ time. Dealing with the illogical emotions of a child has really put my patience and skills to the test. If you can get ONE good photo of a baby/toddler/child, then you are great at what you do. Continue reading