My Miscarriage Journey

In this episode of “It’s Only Reality”, I discuss the traumatic experience of going through a miscarriage. October is National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month and October 15th is Infant & Pregnancy Loss Awareness Day. If you’ve lost a child due to miscarriage, ectopic pregnancy, stillbirth, or neonatal loss, or if you know someone who has, I offer my deepest condolences. Continue reading

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Why start a YouTube channel? I used to wonder why many of the mommy blogs I followed also had videos embedded in the content. It was almost identical information in the video and in the text, so it seemed a little redundant to have two mediums within the same webpage.

It wasn’t until my mother had to tell me–for the millionth time–that I should start a YouTube channel that highlights my journey of motherhood that I even considered doing it. I’m an avid reader and I almost prefer reading someone’s blog over watching their video and mentally rushing them to get to the point. But I do understand that many people prefer to watch someone they consider an online friend. Hearing their voice, getting used to their mannerisms, and being invited into a stranger’s home is a unique experience for our generation. However; if I’m going to take on a project, I like to do it well, so the thought of taking on yet another task by choice was almost laughable. Continue reading

“Mommy and Me” Style

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Years and years before I had any children, I toyed with the idea of being the coordinated family. Part of me loved the idea of my daughter(s) being a mini me and our son(s) being a mini daddy. The other part of me couldn’t stand it. Now that I am a mommy, it’s become a mixture of the two. When we go out for a special occasion like church, parties, family date night, etc. we definitely coordinate our clothing, but on a daily basis, our style is usually dictated by the weather. Living in Southern California that means summer clothing for most of the year (Yay!). Continue reading

Becoming you again…

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Your body, free time, and brain function may never be the same after becoming a mom, but at your core, you are the same amazing, wonderful, and beautiful you! I think it took me about six months post-partum to get my head above water and exit survival mode, and maybe a full year to not feel guilty doing things for myself. There were certain activities that really helped me get in the right head space, and I’d like to share them with my fellow mamas. Some of these may not apply to you, but I’m hoping anyone who stops by to read (hey you!) will find a few of these tips helpful. Continue reading

Welcome to Co-Sleeping

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At our daughter’s 15 month checkup last October, my husband and I were asked by her pediatrician about Petra’s sleeping arrangements and how she was sleeping through the night. She sleeps very well throughout the night (disregarding teething, sickness, or the night before a developmental leap), but we informed him that she was still sleeping in our bed.

He was concerned that she wasn’t falling asleep on her own in her crib. I was surprised that he had an opinion on this. I politely said with a laugh, “We’re not bothered by it, and I’m sure she’ll be sleeping on her own by the time she goes to college.” He raised an eyebrow and replied “Well, I know families whose teenagers still sleep with them.” Continue reading

You don’t have to be grateful.

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I read an article recently of a mother who went through one of the worst horrors you can imagine. She conceived a child only to have him stillborn many months later.  In her post, she offered a suggestion to other new moms she knew stating that they should remember her when their baby is up at 3am crying for hours. She implored that they shouldn’t complain, but instead should be grateful for the newborn cries that she would give anything for. She asked that they not describe the struggles of breastfeeding because she would be left with milk in her breasts and no baby to feed. She went on to say how they should be grateful for all of the ups and downs that came with having a baby because hers had unfortunately died.

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DIY Family Portraits

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I’ve been taking my own portraits ever since I became a model and a photographer over eight years ago. Being able to control the environment and practice my craft without a demanding crew waiting for me to get it right was how I became comfortable in front of and behind the lens.

When my daughter was born, it was only right to start taking her portrait as well. We did this every month for her first year of life in order to document the drastic changes that happen over a few weeks’ time. Dealing with the illogical emotions of a child has really put my patience and skills to the test. If you can get ONE good photo of a baby/toddler/child, then you are great at what you do.  Continue reading

My daughter isn’t spoiled, she’s blessed.

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Ever since I was pregnant and strangers started asking if I was having a boy or girl, the comments began. “Oh, you’re having a girl? She’s going to be soooooo spoiled.” they laughed. Apparently little girls can do and get whatever they want, and I had no say in the matter. I’d smile and reply “She’s already so blessed. We’re really excited.” We’re fortunate to have many friends and family members who care so much about our sweet love, but to say that she’s automatically in the running to…well…run everything couldn’t be further from the truth.  Continue reading

I’m a mom now, what do I wear?!

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First of all, I’d like to thank everyone who read my last post about breastfeeding. I got over 2,300 page views and over 1,950 visitors in a few short days after posting it, so I’m glad I was able to be of some help to those of you stopping by. If there are any specific topics you’d like to hear about in the future, please let me know.

So…

It took me a while to get motivated to dive into fashion after having a baby (about a year to be exact). A lot of my pre-pregnancy clothes will never fit again, so it immensely cut down my wardrobe by default. Trying to make sure I’m comfortable, stylish, and have access for breastfeeding is a lot to consider when getting dressed on a daily basis. I’ve never been the type to live in yoga pants, but I can definitely see the desire to do so when you’re usually too tired to figure out which skirt matches which top. My hope in this post is to encourage you and inform you of tips you can use when getting your flair back after baby (or even just finding your flair as a woman!). Continue reading

Welcome to Breastfeeding

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When I was into my third trimester, I felt like an expert at giving birth already. I watched YouTube videos, read articles, and searched through blogs to get my birth plan together so that I would feel “ready”. Little did I know (as you’ve witnessed from my previous posts about my daughter’s birth), that I could never be ready for what giving birth entailed. Although I can look back and say I did my best to prepare, what really caught me off guard was how little homework I did about the moments (and lifetime) after that last push. Don’t worry, there’s an app for that and plenty of people to give you advice. Or so I thought.

I think there was a total of three tips I got from people when it came to feeding my baby naturally. 1. It’s second nature, you’ll just know what to do. 2. If you’re doing it right, it doesn’t hurt. 3. Make sure you have all of the accessories that go along with breastfeeding (a good pump, and a good nursing bra). No one really made a big deal about it, so neither did I. I certainly didn’t expect the whirlwind that was about to hit me.

I’m not sure if you’re days away from your due date, searching for anyone out there to help you through breastfeeding because you think you’re going insane, or maybe a reader that just happened upon my site. Whoever you may be, I welcome you to breastfeeding.
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